Being a mom for the first time can be scary and overwhelming, so why not share the support with your partner by considering some of the best push gifts for first time moms? If you’re not sure what a push gift is or how to surprise your lover with the best present, here is everything you need to know about the subject.
What are push gifts?
A push present is a gift a partner gives to the woman to mark the occasion of giving birth to their child. Sometimes, it is also referred to as a token of appreciation for the new mom for going through the endless hours of labor before giving birth naturally, hence the “push”.
However, push presents haven’t been very popular until the last few years and some people consider that they were “invented” by the jewelry companies in an attempt to force or stimulate people to spend more.
The practice barely traveled across the United States border, so it is not something to be expected in every culture. Moreover, the only countries that seem to have made push presents trendy are the United States, Australia, and the United Kingdom.
Push presents seem to have increased in popularity in the last couple of years, mainly due to social media platforms where there has been a true competition on who receives the brightest, shiniest, biggest, and the most expensive gift from their partners.
They are becoming more popular amongst celebrities too, with records showing that singer Mariah Carrey received a diamond and sapphire necklace from her former husband, Nick Cannon, after the birth of their twins, back in 2011.
More recently, Instagram influencer and mogul Kylie Jenner was said to have received a Ferrari worth $1.4 million from her former partner, Travis Scott, when she gave birth to their daughter Stormi, at the beginning of 2018.
As we previously stated, push presents are not necessarily expected, but who would say no to a diamond ring, a pair of gorgeous earrings, or a brand new car? So, if you want to make your partner feel special and thank her for carrying a living life inside her womb for 9 months, then spending, on average, 8-9 hours in labor, here is something for every budget.
Love is, by no means, expressed in carats or gold mountains, but many partners choose to show their appreciation for their significant other with a piece of remarkable jewelry. If you have the means, you can go as crazy as your wallet allows you, even though we could think of at least a dozen smarter ways to invest your money.
Nonetheless, this doesn’t mean that your wife or girlfriend won’t appreciate the gesture. Off the record, the more expensive the push present, the happier your partner.
A diamond ring would be a wonderful way to express your gratitude, as long as you know her tastes and you take into account that her fingers might have swollen during the pregnancy. So, if you want to avoid post-partum depressions and sadness, you might want to consider a size bigger or present your push gift with the condition that she should try on the ring a couple of months after giving birth.
If you want to avoid unnecessary fights and talks, consider a necklace, a bracelet, a pair of earrings, or a brand new watch. There are thousands of options under $1,000 that will make any new mom happy.
Our advice would be to choose something custom made such as a gold necklace with the initial of your baby’s name or his/her full name. You can also consider a pendant that symbolizes your love and the new member of your family – anything from a heart to an item that is the object of an inside joke.
If you consider buying a watch, learn your partner’s tastes, and present her with something she will wear. As much as jewelry watches or expensive brands might seem appealing, consider that she won’t be leaving the house anytime soon and, in the first year of your baby’s life, the mom will most likely be too tired or busy to care too much about dressing up and feeling fancy.
Cosmetics and care products
Motherhood is hard, especially if you’re doing this for the first time. Between the constant unsolicited advice from new mothers all around the country and endless talks with the pediatrician, her mom, sister, friends, or in-laws, chances are she won’t have too much time to look after herself as she did before or during pregnancy.
So, why not pamper her with a set of luxury cosmetics she will remember to use, at least once in a while? Dark circle creams, serums, and anti-wrinkle creams should be part of any woman’s care routine after a certain age, especially if she is a mom. Again, there are endless products available on the market, for every budget.
Luxury skincare sets
If you want to invest in luxury skincare sets, brands like La Mer or La Prairie are known for their spicy prices. However, you can still stick within a reasonable budget and opt for other luxury brands, including Estee Lauder, Shiseido, Chanel, Dior Skincare, or Lancome. If most of these names don’t ring a bell or you cannot tell a face cream from plain yogurt, consider the advice of a beauty specialist.
When it comes to cosmetics and skincare products, you also need to make sure the ones you’re choosing are suitable for the mother’s skin type. Given that she will, most likely, spend around 2-3 hours per day napping, her skin will suffer modifications.
We recommend highly moisturizing serums and creams rich in antioxidants, and anti-fatigue ingredients that will restore the natural shine of her complexion. Again, don’t forget about eye creams and concealers as she won’t have too much time for applying makeup.
If you’re looking for gifts that will be more than welcome by most women, consider investing in some vouchers to a local spa or beauty center. Between breastfeeding or warming up endless bottles of formula, changing diapers, doing laundry, trying to put the baby to sleep, and the routine that involves having a newborn in your house, your wife or partner will most likely feel the need to be pampered after a while.
A few hours or even a full day spent at the spa could do wonders not only for her physique but, most importantly, for her mental health. No matter how much she loves her baby, things can become overwhelming, so make sure to be supportive and look after her needs.
Even though she might not say it for the fear of looking like “a bad mom”, your partner needs some time alone.
A body or facial massage, a few cosmetic proceedings to boost her weight loss process, and other similar services won’t cost you a fortune but will put a smile on your partner’s lips for a long time. That might be the only time she has for herself so you shouldn’t be surprised if she takes a well-deserved nap while someone else looks after her face or body.
If salon visits take too long or she doesn’t need one (some women have flawless skin naturally!), perhaps a mani-pedi appointment would be as thoughtful. No matter the case, the idea is to take her out of the tiring routine and make her feel like a beautiful woman again.
Assuming you don’t have a small fortune to spend on expensive push presents, a thoughtful gift that shows how well you know your partner or what she’s going through will be the best choice. Everything from a comfy set of PJs to a mug heater, a silk pillowcase, and some nice sheets can fall into this category.
We cannot stress this enough – the first months of taking care of a newborn are scary, especially for a first time mom, so she won’t get too much rest or food.
Time-efficient kitchen tools
A slow cooker would be another brilliant idea as it allows you to cook a delicious and healthy meal without too much stress. You simply put all the ingredients in a “magic pot”, push a button, and let the appliance do the cooking for you. In a few hours, you can enjoy a healthy meal for the entire family, and save time and energy for something else.
As we previously mentioned, emotional support and affection are more important than any other material push present, so don’t fail at being a good father or partner. Understand the changes her body goes through and don’t be too pushy. Support the mother and her needs in any way you can and show her she can rely on you.
In other words, parenting is not for mothers alone. Change the diapers without being asked to, offer to put the baby to sleep, feed your kid or look after him or her while the mother takes a nap, a well-deserved bath, or simply stares into space for a couple of hours.
Remember that you’re not babysitting if it’s your kid, so be a present parent. Share tasks and responsibilities and be as present as possible in your newborn’s life.